When you picture being in a relationship, what’s the first feeling that comes up? *

A. A mix of wanting it badly and wondering if I’m someone worth choosing.

B. Openness, but also awareness of how much I’d have to rearrange.

C. Cautious. I’ve seen enough to know most people won’t meet my standard.

D. Vague excitement, though I’m not totally sure what I’m actually looking for.

E. Hope, but it’s hard not to compare to what I had before.

F. Genuine readiness. I know what I want and I’m looking for the right person.

Someone you’ve been seeing pulls back without explanation. What do you do? *

A. Assume I did something wrong and reach out to try to fix it.

B. Feel relieved, if I’m honest and let it fade without much effort.

C. Take it as confirmation they weren’t worth my time anyway.

D. Feel confused. I wasn’t sure where it was going anyway.

E. It stings in a way that feels familiar, like I’ve been here before.

F. Acknowledge it’s a signal and move on. Not everyone is ready.

How would you describe your last relationship or the last person you seriously considered? *

A. They didn’t treat me particularly well, but I stayed longer than I should have.

B. Good on paper, but something made me keep one foot out the door.

C. Close, but ultimately there were things I couldn’t overlook.

D. It kind of just happened and kind of just ended. I’m not sure I ever fully committed.

E. Significant. I still measure people against it, for better or worse.

F. I understand why it didn’t work and I’ve taken what I needed from it.

Someone asks what you’re looking for in a partner. What happens? *

A. I give a vague answer. I don’t want to seem like too much.

B. I know what I want. I’m just not sure I’ve left enough room for someone to actually fit.

C. I have a very clear list and most people don’t come close.

D. Honestly, I struggle to answer. I’m still working that out.

E. I describe qualities, but I notice I’m describing someone I already knew.

F. I can answer clearly. I know my values, my needs, and what works for me.

A new connection is going well. Things start to get more serious. What shifts in you? *

A. I get more anxious. I start worrying about when it’ll fall apart.

B. Honestly, pretty good. My life works wel.l

C. Fine. I’d rather be alone than with someone who doesn’t deserve to be there.

D. Comfortable, maybe a little too comfortable with things staying the same.

E. Aware of what I had and aware I’m comparing the quiet to a prior relationship.

F. Good, but genuinely ready for the right person to be part of it.

When you’re not in a relationship, how do you feel about your life? *

A. Like something significant is missing. It’s hard not to measure myself against that.

B. Honestly, pretty good. My life works well.

C. Fine. I’d rather be alone than with someone who doesn’t deserve to be there.

D. Comfortable, maybe a little too comfortable with things staying the same.

E. Aware of what I had and aware I’m comparing the quiet to a prior relationship.

F. Good, but genuinely ready for the right person to be part of it.

Someone treats you poorly early on. What do you do? *

A, Give them the benefit of the doubt. Maybe I read it wrong, or maybe I can fix it.

B. Use it as a reason to step back. Which part of me was looking for anyway.

C. End it immediately. I have no interest in proving a point.

D. Feel unsettled but unsure what to do. I’m not always sure what counts as bad enough.

E. Notice it, but stay. Partly because I’ve learned to expect a certain amount of this.

F. Name it once clearly and if it doesn’t change, I move on without drama.

How often do you think about a past relationship or person? *

A. Often. I still wonder what I could have done differently.

B. Not much. I moved on very efficiently.

C. Sometimes. Usually to remind myself of what I won’t accept again.

D. Not really. I don’t tend to dwell, but I also haven’t fully reflected.

E. More than I’d like to admit. It still shapes how I see new people.

F. I’ve processed it. I understand the role I played and I’ve taken the lessons.

What does your closest friend or person who knows you well say about your love life? *

A. That I give too much to people who don’t give enough back.

B. That I’m hard to get close to or that I self-sabotage when things get real.

C. That I’m too picky or that I find something wrong with everyone.

D. That I don’t seem to know what I want or that I never follow through.

E. That I’m not over it yet. Even when I think I am.

F. That I’ve got it together. They’re not sure why it hasn’t happened yet.

Be honest, what’s the real reason your last connection didn’t become something more? *

A. They weren’t that into me and I tried to make it work anyway.

B. I pulled back when it could have gone further. I also had my doubts.

C. They had qualities I couldn’t get past. My standards aren’t negotiable.

D. It just kind of fizzled. Neither of us pushed it forward.

E. Probably because I wasn’t fully present. Part of me was still somewhere else.

F. They weren’t the right fit and I recognized it clearly enough to move on.

If the right person showed up tomorrow, what would actually get in the way? *

A. My own insecurity. I’d probably struggle to believe they actually wanted me.

B. My life. There’s genuinely not much room, and I’m not sure I’d make it.

C. Me. I’d probably find something wrong before I let it go anywhere.

D. My own uncertainty. I’m not sure I’d know what to do with it.

E. The past. I’d keep comparing them against past relationships.

F. Honestly, not much. I’d know how to receive it.

Why are you here, taking this right now? *

A. Because I keep ending up with people who don’t choose me the way I choose them.

B. Because I want a relationship but keep finding reasons it doesn’t quite work out.

C. Because no one seems to meet the bar and I’m starting to wonder if anyone fits my criteria.

D. Because I’ve been dating for a while and nothing has actually landed.

E. Because I know the past is still with me and I want to understand how to move forward.

F. Because I’m doing everything right and I want to make sure I’m not missing something.

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